Megan McCoy

Romantic Erotica Writer

Dating Site Woes

So I’ve been alone for over five years now and have recently delved back into the world of dating, specifically by going on sites.   This is just a little vent today.   Ignore if you want.

I’ve been on a few sites.   Not sure why, because basically they are mostly the same.

The free ones are mostly scammers.

The paid ones have mostly scammers on them, too.   Out  of ten messages I got  the other night – 7 were scammers.  One said ‘good morning’, the other said I ‘deserved a flirt’  and the other guy used his words.   I like words.   Guess who I’m talking to and have an actual date with?   Yes.  Word Guy.

Scammer are pretty easy to tell.

Profiles:  Out of state.  One or two pictures, and mostly of only their face in what comes to look very staged (because they are – stolen from other people, often models) after you see a few of them.    They are usually widowed with one kid.   Right now, they are probably working overseas….Nigeria anyone???   They want you to either facebook or Yahoo instant message them Right Now.   They don’t get on this site, often you see.   And/or their time is running out.    Its right there in the profile!   “You all can use this nasty ol’ site if you want.  Me, I’m too important!”   No, buddy, you’re a scammer.  (The latest  profiles scammers are streaming right now have their ‘real’ names for FB in ALL CAPS separated by spaces – I guess to let us know its a SECRET).

IF a scammer manages to put up a ‘normal’ profile and you get sucked in, you can usually tell from the first message.  Your smile blinded him.   How can you be so wonderful?   Questions?  No  – they  neither ask nor answer them!   More than likely because English is their third language – or there are multiple people answering your notes and going off a stock phrase book.

Scammers – always suspect and ask something specific, the same question –  in your first and second note.  “where did you go to school”  “Tell me your first car”  “Describe your last meal”  anything practical, but weirdly – they just never answer specifics.   its all flowery words and OMG I love you so already.   Let’s walk on the beach! See the sunset!

Report them.   Frustratingly, you never hear if they get blocked or not.   But honestly – they won’t let me put my book covers up on the sites, so there is someone there monitoring something.  If I can tell these profiles are scammers, why can’t the people who do this for a living?    Curious.


My latest book cover.   I’d put it on the site!   Love it!   AnOldfashionedRelationship

Then there are nine tenths of ‘real’ guys.   They do short profiles.  Which are fine – dates are for finding things out.   But most of them also don’t speak.

A FLIRT IS NOT SPEAKING.  A flirt is the least you can do, and still do something.   I rarely answer a flirt, I’m actually kind of insulted.   I’m worth more than a button click – if you don’t think I am – move on.    Say something, then ask me a question.  2 lines.   You can DO it, I have faith!      Then when I reply, and I will  – we have a conversation going!

But no.  I’m not giving you my phone number and I’m not calling you before I learn a little something about you.   I KNOW you don’t like computers!  So  – you signed up for a dating site….why again?  You know, on the computer?    Suck it up and try a little.   I don’t ask for much, but I work two jobs from this phone and I’m not handing the number  out to you unless you give me a good reason.  Not liking computers isn’t a good reason.  Try.

A friend put up something on her FB page “I don’t want a knight in shining amour.   I want a weirdo who makes me laugh.”   Yeah.   That.

Now back to writing about my pretend alpha males and dreaming of that weirdo.

The City Girl

My next book – The City Girl – is coming out next week.   I’ll be doing an update daily this week while we…sigh…while I wait!

Today is the cover reveal.  My publisher does great covers and I’ve loved them all!   Here is this one:



She’s like smoking hot!  And will be…

Spring Time!

Spring is the best season for a new book release, because, well – new book!   And Spring!    My next one will be out Tuesday – will be posting a few teasers while we wait.

Miki finds out that when on line fantasy and real life cross paths, things can become great or explode in your face. Will she find the right road or trod into dynamite – or is dynamite actually the right road?



I love waking up to a new book cover.   I’m just in awe of people who can do these kinds of things.   I want my cover book artist to come to my house, and decorate it, and then dress me and cut and style my hair, and wave her magic wand and make everything around me lovely.    Well, except the teenager.  He can just be as handsome as he already is.

This books is called Hard Wired Desires and will be available March 22.   But!  Lucky us – we can gander at the amazing book cover right now!  I’ll be sharing the  blurb and an excerpt here this upcoming week.  Stay tuned!

Do you love it as much as I do?   Let us gaze in wonderment at someone’s  vision of my book……



Look at me!

Today I’m Libby Campbell’s guest on her blog – if you’ve not read her book  SIMON SAYS – you should.   Great fun read!

Find out a bit more about me and the upcoming books!

Thank you Libby, for having me over to visit!

My other job

Like many people in this day and age – and probably for always – I work a few jobs.   My goal is to become good enough at this book thing that I don’t have to work three jobs again…  !   I like this goal very much.  My kids do too!

My other website is   and I raise, train and breed Chinese Cresteds and poodles.   I also do boarding and go to people’s houses to teach their pups to behave like they should in a family…(yes I’m really training the people, the dogs are easy.  Don’t tell Caesar!)

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Anyway – I have two new books coming out this month – one on the Blushing website and the other on Amazon and I can’t wait!  Okay – poll – how many books before you feel like a ‘real’ writer??

More details as I get them!


Happy March!

March is coming in like a half grown lion today – windy, chilly, rainy!

Been working on my website since o’dark thirty this morning.   Don’t you love it?  What?  You don’t see any difference?   Where were you six themes ago?   Oh well….  I like it, and that’s what matters, right?

Am in the middle of Her Choice, Forever – should be done in a couple weeks.  Want to know what Holly and Eric are up to? Into?   Oh yeah….then there is Eric’s  sister, Liz who seems to be figuring out that a hot cowboy might have a hard hand.  Nothing wrong with that! I’m starting to think a hot cowboy is not just going to magically show up in my  kitchen.  Some people – like Liz – have all the luck!

Right now, I’m waiting on the edits and the cover for  Hard Wired Desires.    Coming to Amazon soon!     Will keep you updated!

Almost Spring!

Spring is coming – I can tell by the amount of muddy pawprints on my floors! Snow is almost melted and I received confirmation my seed order has shipped.  Happy sigh of contentment here.

March is going to be a great month.   My next book, Hard Wired Desires, will be out the 22nd.   I’ve a follow up to Her Choice, Always, tentatively titled, Her Choice, Forever that will hopefully be out in a few months.   You know, once I finish it and once the publisher decides its readable.


This website should be up and running.  I’ll be doing a few blog hops.   I’ve a puppy litter going to forever homes, and oh, did I mention spring is coming?  Now, if the powers that be would just put a few more hours in my day, life would be just perfect!

Her Choice, Always

My first book out -now on Amazon!


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