Megan McCoy

Romantic Erotica Writer

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Monday Motivation

One of my favorite quotes of all time:

“Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan ‘Press On’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”–Calvin Coolidge

Do you know why?   There is always someone more talented than you – me.  Always someone who is smarter, who has forty-two letters behind their names.  People who were born with natural abilities.

Yet.   Does that matter long term?  We all know baby ‘geniuses’   who walked, talked, and did everything first.   But, walking into kindergarten, no one can tell who started walking at eight months or fourteen months.  Who began talking in complete sentences at six months, or three years old.   By the time they get to college, no one even cares when they were potty trained.   Well, maybe their mom.

Its the long haul that matters, how persistent you can be, you are, how many hours a day, or time you put into reaching your goal.

Me, I spend most of my day in front of my keyboard.  But hot damn, this is the dream, and with time and persistence, I will only get better at what I practice doing every day.  Writing books.

Cute puppy.   Just because.   dscf0678

Swinging

“Critics who treat ‘adult’ as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”
― C.S. Lewis

 

My favorite ‘childish’ thing to do is swing.   I love soaring in a swing.  Pumping, going higher and higher – and well, I did give up jumping out a while back.   But I still can swing higher than any of you!

Dating Site Woes

So I’ve been alone for over five years now and have recently delved back into the world of dating, specifically by going on sites.   This is just a little vent today.   Ignore if you want.

I’ve been on a few sites.   Not sure why, because basically they are mostly the same.

The free ones are mostly scammers.

The paid ones have mostly scammers on them, too.   Out  of ten messages I got  the other night – 7 were scammers.  One said ‘good morning’, the other said I ‘deserved a flirt’  and the other guy used his words.   I like words.   Guess who I’m talking to and have an actual date with?   Yes.  Word Guy.

Scammer are pretty easy to tell.

Profiles:  Out of state.  One or two pictures, and mostly of only their face in what comes to look very staged (because they are – stolen from other people, often models) after you see a few of them.    They are usually widowed with one kid.   Right now, they are probably working overseas….Nigeria anyone???   They want you to either facebook or Yahoo instant message them Right Now.   They don’t get on this site, often you see.   And/or their time is running out.    Its right there in the profile!   “You all can use this nasty ol’ site if you want.  Me, I’m too important!”   No, buddy, you’re a scammer.  (The latest  profiles scammers are streaming right now have their ‘real’ names for FB in ALL CAPS separated by spaces – I guess to let us know its a SECRET).

IF a scammer manages to put up a ‘normal’ profile and you get sucked in, you can usually tell from the first message.  Your smile blinded him.   How can you be so wonderful?   Questions?  No  – they  neither ask nor answer them!   More than likely because English is their third language – or there are multiple people answering your notes and going off a stock phrase book.

Scammers – always suspect and ask something specific, the same question –  in your first and second note.  “where did you go to school”  “Tell me your first car”  “Describe your last meal”  anything practical, but weirdly – they just never answer specifics.   its all flowery words and OMG I love you so already.   Let’s walk on the beach! See the sunset!

Report them.   Frustratingly, you never hear if they get blocked or not.   But honestly – they won’t let me put my book covers up on the sites, so there is someone there monitoring something.  If I can tell these profiles are scammers, why can’t the people who do this for a living?    Curious.

 

My latest book cover.   I’d put it on the site!   Love it!   AnOldfashionedRelationship

Then there are nine tenths of ‘real’ guys.   They do short profiles.  Which are fine – dates are for finding things out.   But most of them also don’t speak.

A FLIRT IS NOT SPEAKING.  A flirt is the least you can do, and still do something.   I rarely answer a flirt, I’m actually kind of insulted.   I’m worth more than a button click – if you don’t think I am – move on.    Say something, then ask me a question.  2 lines.   You can DO it, I have faith!      Then when I reply, and I will  – we have a conversation going!

But no.  I’m not giving you my phone number and I’m not calling you before I learn a little something about you.   I KNOW you don’t like computers!  So  – you signed up for a dating site….why again?  You know, on the computer?    Suck it up and try a little.   I don’t ask for much, but I work two jobs from this phone and I’m not handing the number  out to you unless you give me a good reason.  Not liking computers isn’t a good reason.  Try.

A friend put up something on her FB page “I don’t want a knight in shining amour.   I want a weirdo who makes me laugh.”   Yeah.   That.

Now back to writing about my pretend alpha males and dreaming of that weirdo.

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